TORONTO, Aug. 9, 2011 /CNW/ - Throughout the summer, Kids Help Phone
counsellors often hear from kids who have imagined scenarios about what
the next school year will be like.
Young students who are transitioning into middle or high school
sometimes fear being targeted by bullies or cyberbullies, or that their
new school will be violent. They also sometimes fear that their peers
will pressure them to do drugs. Often, these worries are based on
things kids have heard in the media, or from older siblings who are
trying to scare them.
While some kids have big fears about going back to school, others have
To a kid who's been bullied, moving on to a new school might mean that
old problems will disappear. To another kid, a new grade or a fresh
wardrobe might mean increased popularity.
But after the first few weeks of school pass, kids whose high
expectations haven't materialized start to crash as a new reality sets
Helping kids prepare for going back to school is about helping them to
build realistic expectations.
What our experts are saying
"A kid's biggest hope or worst fear probably won't come true," says
Alain Johnson, Clinical Director, French Language Services at Kids Help
Phone. "What is their Plan B? How do they grasp reality? On what
grounds are these fears based?"
Evidence tells us that well-being is becoming more elusive, in large
part because of unrealistic or outdated expectations and pervasive
uncertainty about the future. The pressure to perform, to succeed
against all odds, to make the right choices, to save face or to prove
their worth in the eyes of others are common reasons kids and teens
reach out to us.
Tips for parents
Johnson says parents should first ask the question, "is back to school a
problem for my kid or not?"
Johnson and other Kids Help Phone professionals are available to talk
about what parents can watch for if their kids are worried about going
back to school, and how to help build realistic expectations for the
start of the school year.
Part of the work of becoming an adult is learning to set realistic
goals, and to adapt unrealistic goals in order to make them achievable.
About Kids Help Phone
Kids Help Phone is Canada's leading youth counselling service, moving
kids from distress and isolation to confidence and competence.
Available anytime of the day or night, in English and French, by phone
and by web, it is the go-to resource for kids in Canada from five to 20
when they need help or trustworthy information on issues that are
difficult to discuss with anyone else. Providing a service that is
free, anonymous and confidential, Kids Help Phone is a respected
charity, vitally dependent on individual donations and corporate
support to remain available to kids looking for help; sometimes looking
for a lifeline.
SOURCE: Kids Help Phone
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