i knew high school was going to b hard, but i mean wow this is like
killing me!! *
TORONTO, Aug. 5 /CNW/ - Excitement about friends and new supplies,
worries about fitting in and meeting teachers' expectations are
inevitable as kids are reminded that it's back-to-school season. But at
Kids Help Phone, counsellors know that for some, the early nervous
energy can quickly turn to paralyzing anxiety. School can be a tense and
I know its a little early to be worring about September but I'm
already having sleepless nights and anxieity. I am the one everyone
likes to pick on. I'm fat, I'm stupid, Im ugly, I'm stupid, I'm poor,
I'm stupid, I'm fat, I'm stupid. Im dreading the day the bus comes - the
bus is the worst nightmare of my life bc its none stop abuse all the way
to school. I don't want friends I just want to be left alone! **
With well over six million kids heading to public schools, colleges and
universities this September***, many will need effective coping
strategies to help manage the transition. In the hope of increasing the
number of young people who receive appropriate support, Kids Help Phone
is going right to the heart of the matter by sending schools across the
country its new awareness campaign material designed to encourage,
educate and inspire young people to step up and reach out for help and
"We know that the #1 way kids hear about us is through their school. By
joining efforts with educators, we can foster the emotional health and
well-being of Canada's children and youth," says Dr. Janice Currie, Vice
President, Counselling Services at Kids Help Phone
To ensure that all students understand that they can talk about whatever
is troubling them with one of Kids Help Phone's bilingual and
professional counsellors, a centerpiece of the fall awareness efforts is
the kidshelpphone.ca website. It is the only website in Canada that
brings together the information needed to provide both kids and teens,
via separate and age-appropriate sites, with the tools to deal with
stressful times and provide answers to questions too difficult to
discuss with anyone else. The newly transformed website offers a direct
counselling channel, and features a wealth of research-based
information, coupled with games to educate and interactive self-care and
resiliency building tools.
"Reading stories which resonate with your own, and accessing trusted
information are both powerful ways to find comfort and perspective
without ever feeling like you've given yourself away. Our websites can
make counselling more accessible to kids who are too shy, too scared, or
not ready yet to speak to a counselor," adds Dr. Currie.
Parents and guardians can also help alleviate back to school stress and
one important tip is to talk about the possible stressors.
Many kids fear that their parents won't be willing to hear them out.
Let them know that you are safe to talk to. Encourage them to talk
about both the good stuff and the bad, and make an effort to really
listen; reflect that you 'get it' when you do, and ask for
clarification when you don't. Show them that you want to understand
Explicitly tell them that you're open to talking about the really
tough stuff, and that there's nothing they could tell you that would
damage the relationship irreparably.
Don't make assumptions about what your child is going through.
Instead, ask questions, show that you are interested, and acknowledge
that if your child is bringing this concern to you that it's worthy of
some time and attention.
Don't rush to solutions. Instead ask your child what would be most
helpful right now. Maybe your child just needs someone to listen. You
won't know what they most want from you until you ask.
Remember that it's okay not to have all of the answers - you're not
expected to. But parents and teachers can take comfort in knowing
that Kids Help Phone does.
About Kids Help Phone
Kids Help Phone is
Canada's leading youth counselling service, moving kids from distress
and isolation to confidence and competence. Available anytime of the day
or night, in English and French, by phone and by web, it is the go-to
resource for kids in Canada from five to 20 when they need help or
trustworthy information on issues that are difficult to discuss with
anyone else. Providing a service that is free, anonymous and
confidential, Kids Help Phone is a respected charity, vitally dependent
on individual donations and corporate support to remain available to
kids looking for help; sometimes looking for a lifeline.
* please consult the appended Kids Posts to access the full post from
the Kids Help Phone Ask Us Online service
** post from Kids Help Phone Ask Us Online counselling service, edited
to protect the anonymity of the client
*** based on Statscan 2006/2007 academic year (Over 5.16 million youth
were enrolled in public schools, and just over 1,066,000 students were
enrolled in Canadian universities during the academic year 2007/2008)
BACK-TO-SCHOOL KIDS' POSTS
i knew high school was going to b hard, but i mean wow this is like
killing me!! i found out something about myself, when i get extreamly
stressed i shake like a leaf!!! and i like to chew, like last night i
chewed the paint off my pencil!! i need to calme down but cant. i keep
crying for no reason, ugggg its just so stressful. i mean im crying
right now and i dont know y!!!! what should i do??? i cant concentrate i
cant sleep. i cant do anything!!! help me plz!!
I used to get good grades but as i got older my mother got tougher and
tougher on me. Getting my report card were the scariest times of the
year. I knew shed get mad at me...and she did. She would yell at me,
ground me, take things away because of my "bad" grades, but wouldnt say
anything about my better grades. So eventually i gave up. she always
said i could do better even though i tried. so now i don't really care
about school and she yells at me more because of my declining grades.
What should i do to make her ease up? and ive tried talking to her i
just don't know what to say anymore!
There's this huge expectation for me to go to university. The stuff I
really really really like doing, like drawing and design, are college
courses! Not university. My parents always say to do what I love doing,
but there's always that underlining expectation to be greater than they
are and to do more with my life. And that's to go to university. It just
seems pointless. I just want them to back off and let me decide what I
want to do myself. How can I get them to stop?
When the teacher asked "Okay, tell me what your name and how old you
are." my face turned red and my eyes started to water and she dropped it
and moved on to the next person. When the time came to 'Tell me your
name and a hobby or an interesting fact about you.' I seriously started
to panic and started to shake, my mind started to race and jolts of
sharp pains came shooting into my chest and breathing became a great
difficulty. I no longer had any control over myself. When she said
"anything unique about you?" I shook my head and then it was real quiet
and then someone shouted out "She doesn't talk, that could be unique".
and i got up and just left the room. I really want to ask my mum to take
me to get tested for anxiety, but she will probably just passed it off
as nothing when i asked to be taken to the doctor when i was younger. I
didnt know what it was then, but I knew it was something.
There is no gay-straight alliance in my school. I would really like for
there to be. I'm in middle school so shouldent there be? and since there
isent, how could I get the school to make one, with being compleatly
anonomus at the same time? I know I'm bi. but I don't know anyone else
in my school. I'm lonley, and the glbtq site sucks.... any advice?
My parents think that i am completely tuned out from my culture, and
often tell me that i dont even belong to the family. When i got 3 B's
and one A on my report card, they directly told me that they were
shameful grades and that I shouldn't be proud of those. This semester,
when I got 3 A's and 1 B, they told me again that it wasn't any better.
I'm frustrated, I have fights with my mom everyday, and i cant take it
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