Sex is the First Casualty of 'Stressed' Relationships

    Self-mastery expert Patricia Wall dispels myth that loss of passion and
    love causes most marriages to fail

    TORONTO, Oct. 3 /CNW/ -- Recent studies show that roughly 1 in 3
marriages end in divorce. More than half of married men and married women
engage in extramarital sex at some time during their relationship. Is it a
loss of passion, caring or love that is causing statistics like these to soar?
Not at all, says self-mastery expert Patricia Wall. "Couples often mistakenly
identify the root cause of what is troubling their relationships, and sadly --
and quite pointlessly -- that sends couples into a tailspin from which it's
very hard to recover." Unfortunately, the end result is frequently divorce.
    Although the first tangible symptom of a failing marriage is the loss of
sexual activity, that loss is most often due to stress and not a loss of
passion or love for the spouse, explains Wall, whose self-mastery workshops
have been bringing renewed passion to people's relationships for 10 years.
"Many marriages could be saved if people understood the true cause of their
problems, Wall says. "In today's world that root cause is often stress."
    Stress affects body chemistry, which changes the subliminal signals
spouses are giving to each other. Instead of subliminal signals of attraction
and desire, the signals become aggressive, or withdrawn -- cutting off the
couple's ability to connect. Stress taints ordinary conversation with
hostility and emotional distance that destroys desire and arousal. "In the
simplest language," Wall observes, "women can't sense sexual interest, and men
can't sense caring, when they are stressed."
    Body chemistry triggers instincts, damaging interactions at a level the
couple is not even aware of, Wall says. "To their conscious awareness it may
look like being too busy, or too tired, or just irritable, but their primitive
brain has a different perception that is damaging their marriage," she adds.
    Surveys show that most people involved in failing relationships believe
they have fallen out of love with their spouse, or their spouse no longer
loves them or finds them desirable. According to Wall, this is a common
misconception -- and a damaging one. The tension that builds around a husband
or wife believing he or she is no longer desirable can set in motion a series
of insurmountable challenges. "It's infinitely easier to talk through issues
of stress than issues of loss of love or desirability," says Wall. "In so many
instances, couples incorrectly identify the cause and then the communication
ends because it's too painful to talk about loss of love, passion and caring."
    "Broken emotional intimacy destroys physical intimacy," explains Wall.
"Life is stressful, plain and simple. That stress drains your emotional energy
so you're not connecting with your spouse -- and believe it or not, sex stems
from connecting emotionally. Men always have trouble believing that. But it's
true for guys, too," Wall adds.
    Self-mastery expert Patricia Wall will provide solutions for bringing
passion and renewed sexual interest back into relationships at an upcoming
workshop in Toronto on October 12th-14th She is also immediately available for
print, TV and radio interviews. For more information, please visit, and
    To immediately schedule an interview with Patricia Wall, please call
Peter Wendel of Direct Design Communications, LLC at 202.380.5120.
    Patricia Wall has taught self-mastery for more than a decade in Ottawa,
Ontario. She specializes in exploring the root causes of human behavior and
teaches people to change or re-program those root causes to improve their
quality of life on a variety of levels. Wall has published dozens of articles
on the subject of self-mastery and has a private practice in Ottawa to help
people permanently change their lives for the better. Originally a software
developer and international project leader for a high-tech firm, Wall credits
her background in R&D and the logic of computers for her revolutionary use of
ancient wisdom. Wall will conduct a two-day relationship-oriented workshop,
"Renovate or Relocate," in Toronto on October 13th-14th. On November 24th-
25th, also in Toronto, she will teach "Naturally Slim," a two-day course
designed to help people permanently lose weight. For more information, visit

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